“To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved – that’s everything.”
- T. Tolis
Whether you want to keep the sparks flying or to spice up your love life which is going bland, there are several factors that come in to play. First thing you need to remember is that you are the most important part of your romantic relationship; you contribute directly to it, which indicates that you are the only one who should take responsibility for your role. So instead of changing anyone else, you need to change yourself – that’s the only thing you can do.
While getting caught up in other things, we tend to forget our sexual needs. So in order to truly spice up our desires, we need to connect to our sexual selves first. You can simply do so by answering these questions:
- How emotionally available are the two of you?
- How well do the two of you communicate?
- What fires you both up?
- What makes you both feel sexy?
- What turns you guys on?
Now that you’re connected with your sexual self, let’s have a look at some things you can do to spice up your love life.
1. Exercise, Eat Right; Take Care of Yourself
How can this make you be more intimate with your partner? Well, feeling good about yourself and your body is a starting point. Our bodies tend to change due to various factors such as stress, bad routines, and whatnot. In order to feel more confident in the bedroom, the first thing we need to do is to keep our bodies in-tune. So keep yourself in shape by moving and eating nutritious, nourishing food that keeps you energized.
2. Touch Your Partner
Touching doesn’t necessarily need to build up to sex all the time. It’s simply a very powerful way to connect you with your partner. You can communicate by touching and gain a deeper emotional connection that can be the key to a more loving partnership.
3. Be Creative with Your Date Nights
Do the two of you plan date nights? Whether you do or you don’t, you need to be creative with your ideas. It’s simply all about having fun with your partner!
4. Be Attentive to Your Desires
Every individual has desires, but some can be more secretive than others. Being clear on what you need in the bedroom can be very beneficial in a relationship. You might be too embarrassed to try it, which is why it’s suggested that you try opening up and getting the message across precisely.
5. Support Him/Her
Establishing safety in your relationship is the pivotal part of creating everlasting intimacy. The two of you need to feel supported, which naturally leads to more openness and comfort.
Intimacy always has an element of safety attached to it and as human beings, we want it; in fact, we need it! While the two of you may have crazy busy routines, it’s essential that you reconnect and help establish a feeling of emotional safety around each other.